“No” Will Set You Free

“No” is a simple word, but often the hardest to say.  What makes us incapable of saying “no” to people and situations?  Take a moment and think about your life…

Do you feel compelled to say “yes”, even when you need to say “no”?

It is commonplace for women to take care of everyone but themselves, leaving a void in their lives.  As we go down the path of doing for others, with little regard to the chaos it creates in our lives, we feel the strain.  There is pressure to live up to an impractical model, a superwomen type that can say “yes” to everyone, while still presenting herself “fresh as a daisy”, smiling that million dollar smile so big you wonder if her cheeks are going to cramp up.  Happy to do for others, all the time, day in and day out, until…there is nothing left.

While you do for others, who is doing for you?

We run out of time to take care of ourselves, losing the perspective that allows us to enforce limits with other people.  In the end, we are the ones that suffer, sacrificing our needs, ignoring our dreams; often straying from the path of our lives’ purpose.

In the fleeting moments we are able to say “no” to the demands of others, we often find ourselves plagued with guilt.  Like all emotions, guilt comes from within us, an accumulation of outdated standards, impossible expectations, and a need to please others.  We create guilt, allow it into our minds… and we are the ones that can release it from our lives.

We can start to eliminate guilt, when we prioritize our lives.  As we let go of the unnecessary interruptions, we then can choose to put our energy into the areas of our lives that really need it, instead of thinking that we are accountable for everyone else.  We are responsible for creating our own lives, as others are responsible for theirs.

When you bring into your consciousness that you are worthy of being a priority, then you can start putting your time and energy back where it belongs.  Think of how productive you would be, if you let “no” set you free from the shackles that are keeping you from working towards your true potential.

Until next time, enjoy the journey to self and everything in between.


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