October 25th Jounery to Self: The most important relationship in your life

This was a transformational show!  This week Rebecca White, the voice of Heal Yourself Talk Radio joined me as we discussed the most important relationship in your life, the one with yourself.  Rebecca is a remarkable woman that has battled with her own relationship with herself and highlights the lessons that she has learned in her new book: My Time Cannot Always Be Your Time – The Wife, The Mother, The Woman.

“It is easy to create and maintain relationship with our spouses, children, and colleagues. The unconditional love we feel for our loved ones comes easy, but what happens if you turn that unconditional love inward? Why can’t we love ourselves or even treat ourselves like we do others? Most women become victims of the outdated thinking that we have been taught as far as the roles of women in our society and how homes should be. We grew up believing women are supposed to be self-sacrificing, look a certain way, raise our children a certain way, and be there for everyone but ourselves.

We feel guilty when we think of caring for ourselves because we have been taught such thinking is “selfish.” Too many women have lives focused on caring for others, spending time on developing their own identity. And why? Because that is what television, media, and even our family histories have told us for so long. 

~ Excerpt from “The Most Important Relationship in Your Life” Published in The Womanly Insights – Women’s Online Magazine in Print Oct. – Dec Issue.

Tips to create and maintain your relationship with yourself:

• Make time for yourself.  Start with 15 minutes a day and work up to longer periods of time.  This will show yourself that you matter and that you are worth taking care of.
• Journal – it is one of the best way to get in touch with emotions that you might be having.  Whether it is to get out your stress and frustration or to chronicle a great moment in your life, it is a great way to connect with your emotions and your thoughts.
• Use meditation to gain focus and insight into your own thoughts, feelings, and desires.
• Watch your self talk.  As Rebecca suggested keep track of how many times in a day that you are thinking something negative.  How you feel about yourself is directly related to how you treat and talk to yourself.  Remember if you tell yourself that you “can’t” do something…then you won’t be able to. 
• Set boundaries with others, a clear lesson from Rebecca’s book My Time Cannot Always Be Your Time, by saying yes to everyone elses needs you are ultimately saying no to yourself or something that is important to you.

Links mentioned on the Show:

Life By Design
Post on Mom’s Coffee Break (My letter to my son)
Heal Yourself Talk Radio
Health Podcasting Directory
Advantage Marketing 4 U
To Buy Rebecca’s Book: My Time Cannot Always Be Your Time

Until next time, enjoy the journey to self and everything in between.